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You are here: Blog / Personal Development / You Are Who You Say You Are, So If You Don’t Like It… Change It

You Are Who You Say You Are, So If You Don’t Like It… Change It

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August 11, 2017 By T. Harv Eker 1 Comment

Let’s say you’re a juror in a courtroom, and you know the person on trial is absolutely guilty. All of the evidence points to them. The jury’s just about to break for deliberations, but at the last second, the defendant’s lawyer comes in and says, “Everybody wait. Before you go, I have one more witness.”

That witness comes up and says, “I’m sorry. I was scared. I didn’t know what to do. I did it. No, they didn’t force me to confess. Here’s how I did it and framed this poor person on the bench right now. I did it. I feel terrible, but now I finally have to own up to it.”

As a juror, do you find the first person guilty? Of course not, because you now have some new evidence. You change your belief about the person on trial.

Guess what? The same goes for us.

You Can Change Your Belief About Yourself & Your Life

One belief that I see over and over again among many of my students is the belief that, “I’m not a big deal” or “I’m not good enough.”

Somebody at some point in their lives ran them down, made them feel less than worthy, or eroded their esteem in ways that happened on purpose or accidentally.

I actually saw this sign in a spiritual store recently that said, “I have to admit, I’m kind of a big deal.” It is not some selfish, egotistical, narcissistic thing to make yourself relevant in this universe’s plans. It’s not saying be obnoxious and overbearing toward other people. It’s saying don’t sell yourself short.

Isn’t your life that important? Aren’t you important to anyone?

If not, at least be important to you. At least be a model so that you can help other people that are in your position. Change your story about yourself. Offer up some new supporting evidence. Create a belief about yourself that supports you — it’s one of the most powerful ways you can create happiness and success in your life.

You Are Who You Say You Are, So If You Don’t Like It... Change It

Change The Conversation With yourself —You Set The Rules

It’s much easier to say “Change your story” than “Change your life.”

I always highly recommend getting coaching from others because your coach will support you. Your coach will help you with the “It’s not a big deal” syndrome. They’ll help you to lay out the exact steps to reach your goals and accomplish your dreams. 

You write your life so if you say, “I’m not worth it,” then fine, you’re not worth it. You wrote that. You created it. You think it, so it’s true. Whatever you think is your reality.

“I’ll be worthy if I have $1 million in the bank, or if I have the two most perfect children in the world.”

“I’ll be worthy if I have a husband or wife who loves me.”

“I’ll be worthy if I have a brand new car or if my job has status.”

That’s all BS. None of that is going to make you worthy because if you say you’re worthy, you are! If you say you’re not worthy, you’re not! That’s the only thing that makes you worthy.

Again, change the conversation with yourself. You set the rules.

Who is the referee in your life? You are.

Who’s the judge? You are.

Who’s the timekeeper in the game of your life? You are.

Who’s the player? You are.

You’re everything. How could you lose this game? There’s nobody else playing but you!

Repeat that with me… “There’s nobody else playing but you!” Let that marinate a bit and really soak it in.

Make up a different story if you need to feel and be worthy — to be a big deal that gets big deals done! You’re going to make up a story one way or the other. You might as well make up one that says that you’re worthy!

You are at the steering wheel of your life. True or true? Ready to take control of it and design the life you’ve always wanted?

After years of experimenting, I’ve boiled my process down for getting exactly what you want in your life to only 7 simple steps — 7 steps that you can use over and over again to achieve your ultimate life. And I personally walk you through these steps on my free web class, The Ultimate Life Makeover, which airs August 16th – August 23rd.

To register, click here or simply select a date and time that works best for you below. See you there! 

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    You Are Who You Say You Are, So If You Don’t Like It... Change It

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    1. Maite Arbones says

      August 11, 2017 at 8:56 am

      Comparto, la oportunidad de acceder tanto al Curso, como a ti.. vosotros.. mediante la plataforma de Facefook de Una Mente Millonaria (España) en la cuál, me hicieron administradora, una vez que hubé comentado mi intención de hacer llegar tus/vuestros grandes aportaciones, y Sabidurias, así como la opción de unirse a vuestro/nuestro Gran Equipo de desarrollo, tanto Personal, como Espiritual, como Economico.. <3

      https://www.facebook.com/groups/Tengounamentemillonaria/

      Como siempre, recibe, recibid, todo mi Amor..

      Con Infinito Amor, <3

      Maite Arbones

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